Use the following questionnaire as a primer for Coming of Age with Aging Parents: The Bungles, Battles, and Blessings. Most frequently best-but-not-only answers appear upside down at the bottom of the page.
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If you are questioning your parents' ability to live independently, you should: |
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Move in with them. |
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Do a weekend search for housing and place them in a facility the following weekend. |
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Talk to your parents about their concerns before you proceed. |
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Pack your folks in the car with a few belongings and drive them to your brother's home 300 miles away.
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B. |
Your parent is not very good about asking for help, let alone receiving it. You should: |
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Turn a blind eye and stick your head in the sand. |
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Lecture them about how much they deserve to receive after all they have given. |
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Resurrect the idea of natural consequences they used with you as a child. |
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4. |
Research and outline a support network should a time come they need it.
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C. |
Your mother's driving shows obvious signs of deterioration. You should: |
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Catch her backing out of her driveway, follow her in your own car and confront her when she returns home. |
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Enlist the support of her family physician (or other revered professional) who is aware of the situation to help create a plan. |
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Run for the hills. |
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Make an anonymous call to the police department citing her license number, advising them you were nearly killed by the driver of this car.
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D. |
You wish you were getting more support for caregiving your parents from your siblings. You should: |
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Confess you aren't able to do it all and ask them to help more. |
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Appeal to their guilt by letting them know how much you are doing. |
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Send a monthly invoice for the hours you have invested. |
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4. |
Consult some rune stones/a pendulum/the I-Ching.
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Answers: A. 3 | B. 4 | C. 2 | D. 1
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